I saw the movie "Ted" last night. It was unexpectedly funny. Very raunchy and over the top. It caught me totally off guard and I found myself laughing at surprising things.
A deeper issue
that was an element in the story was the level of neediness in some of
the characters. SPOILER ALERT! There's a man and his son who feel they
need Ted to be a part of their lives. They go to destructive ends to
achieve their desires. What is the need about? What do they feel they
are lacking that Ted will fulfill? Why should their desires override
Ted's desires for himself?
We've all experienced
neediness in varying degrees. We think someone has something we
need...love, knowledge, wealth, influence, talent, and on and on. And,
instead of realizing that we each have everything we need within us, we
project our needs outward to those around us. And, through our
neediness, we "cord into" or "hook onto" someone else's energy.
we cord into someone, we breach the integrity of our own energy field
as our energy goes out to the other person. Once we've breached our
energetic field, we open ourselves up to other energies that might want
to cord into us, or other energies that might want to attach themselves
to us. When we are corded into anyone else, or have attachments, our
energy is constantly being drained and siphoned off, and we are weakened.
we have strong boundaries, and feel whole and complete within
ourselves, and are able to stay with ourselves and remain integral to
ourselves, then no one can cord into us and we don't go out of ourselves
to cord into anyone else. We can be in relationship without cording
into someone, although for some of us, that's a new concept. Some of us
think that to be in relationship with someone we need to cord into
them. This is something that we do unconsciously. But, we can start to
be conscious of it. We can start to be aware of where we're feeling
needy, or lacking, and of how we leach onto the energy of others.
can stay integral to ourselves and, instead of going out into another
person's energy field in our attempt to know them, or to take from them
what we think they have that we need, we can stay with ourselves and
allow the other person to reveal themselves through our interaction. By
realizing that we are whole and complete, and that the other person is
whole and complete, we can engage in relationship and enjoy an
interchange where we don't leach from the other person or allow them to
leach from us. We're then able to accept and honor ourselves and the
other for who they are, and to enjoy the mystery and revelation of the relationship to happen without trying to get anything or control anything.
is something I've only recently started to understand. In my own
process to honor my own wholeness, I've had to see the areas within
myself that I've felt were lacking. I realize that for most of my life
I've been cording into other people and allowing them to cord into me.
It's something that I finally understand to be unnecessary and
ultimately destructive...better late than never! So, it's something
that I'm hyper-aware of at this point in time.
all of this deeper thought aside, go see "Ted" and enjoy some good belly
laughs. Be forewarned that nothing is off limits or precious in this
story and just let go and enjoy yourself.